In response to the negative comments about Davis life and what he does…

I recently had a situation happen at work where I almost lost my job cause I was jealous of a girl who I thought was better than me. She was blonde and pretty and successful at her job and had a boyfriend who was really great. I didn’t have those things and talked mad trash about her to a bunch people. I started telling them about her performance and what I thought was ‘juicy gossip’. I thought that if I did this I would gain more friends and respect as the smarter more brilliant one.

Its crazy cause this situation went down about 6 months ago, I though it was all blown over (the girl in question moved to a different department, we had a long talk prior, I spilled my guts, fessed up, we parted ways) But my mgr observed us at a company function just recently and pulled me in his office on Wednesday to talk about it again to see if it was resolved (the night of the AI finale oddly enough) During our conversation he was able to get it out of me that it was not, he taled to this girl and she still was feeling pretty hurt about what I did. I cried and cried. Let me tell you, I was pretty upset too that my manager was bringing this up again. I started blaming it on the people I told. Wrong. I started blaming it on the work load and stress and my inexperience at the time. Wrong. I blamed our age difference, the times we worked (night crew) Wrong. I was not owning up to the fact that I was being a pretty terrible human being and trying to put someone down to make my self feel better. What I did was hurt myself and put myself in a very difficult situation. I fed the fires and opened the door for people to take advantage of my authority, “oh yea, talk to Dee, she’ll give you the juicy gossip” I worked really hard to get where I am at my job and I was about to let my low self esteem and jealousy take it all away.

Talking to my boss, he told me you just cant talk bad about people and you cant pry and chase after the gossip. You can have your opinion and you are entitled to that, sure, but you just cant talk bad about people. Its hard enough to manage perceptions in other normal situations, talking smack or becoming incredibly invading will only add to the difficulty. He said that I should be happy for people who have things that I want. And when I do that, support them, I may eventually get to have that happiness too or share in theirs, or both!

Now reading all the threads, going through this weekend of high and low emotion, happy for David but sad that its all over, jealous that he was enjoying his moment and doing what he wanted, I understand where my boss was coming from.

We can feel jealous, upset, pissed, its part of human emotions, but we need to let our emotions out in other ways and not talk trash, not get all up in their business. I learned a hard hard lesson that day as well as during my journey supporting David these past few days and reading and interacting with this site.

Like others are saying, if David found out that bad things were said or we were trying to completely destroy his personal life, he would turn his back, plain and simple. He would not trust us with sharing his soul. Period. We have supported David and now get to see and hear more if his art and talent, lets not allow any thing to get in the way of not being able to have that.

I thank Travis for this site and my boss for reminding me that we need to love and support each other. I also thank David for being who he is and sharing his amazing gift with us. I think that is what draws us to him, his qualitys and traits that we want be able to adopt.

I vow to not allow the media to sway my emotions and to stay away from the evil gossip outlets.

I’m sorry if this is a bit all over the place and that its so long, (it’s the expressive expressive in me)I just wanted to share with all the wonderful folks on this site. Its been super fun to belong to a community like this and I look foward to the fun to come.

Much Love,

Dee <--my nickname

What I think is funny, and i know this will be locked and removed soon enough so i can talk about how i feel...Ever since i've been on this board all i've heard is "let's make David's deams come true", "Let's do what's right for Cookie", "We want David happy" and yet when he finds someone he seems to really like (refrence the second larry king interview) we all go on attack mode towards the girl. It's crazy and a bit stupid.

Jealousy can rip at your very core leaving you lonely and bitter. Trust someone speaking from personal experience. I'm HAPPY for David and Kim as long as David and Kim are happy with each other. He is obviously attracted to her, she's clearly a smart, funny, and beautiful girl who has a great voice. AND to top it off, she knows what he's been going through this last year as it's happened to her in season 2. Respect the man and his decisions about who he wants to date.

Am i jealous? Hell yes...does that make me any less of a fan of him or his amazing music? Never. I am a fan of what he represents musically, not of any chance of having his children. I am a fan of what I have been able to achieve in my life because of his honesty and openness with his fans (if you're interested there's a lengthy post somewhere around here). I am a fan because he shared his soul with me every week, and with all of you as well, and made me fall in love with music again. I am a fan because of HIS passion for music and what it means to him. Support David, as you should, don't hurt yourself with a sadness or (?)hate(?) because David is seeing someone.

That is all i have to say. *packs away my soapbox*

One last thing. Dee - I agree that Makeover is the best song ever. I can't hear it without crying. David's music truly touches my soul

Thanks for reading cookie monster. I don’t want any one to take what I said wrong, especially the ones who run this site. I wanted to share an experience that I had that almost destroyed me and all that I worked hard to get, and cause I really I don’t want it to happen to other people.

I do think emotions of any kind are something to be aware of and explored to a certain extent, but not at the harm of others. There is a right way and a wrong way to identify what you are feeling and to move through it, I think that way you can draw from that if it comes up again and remember how crappy (or happy) you felt in order to make a decision on what action to take.

I have realized that listening to music, writing in a diary, exercising, having a good cry, doing something one enjoys is a far better way to deal with things that stir up ill feelings.




Oh man, the line about broken legs is what got me. I have broken and injured my foot so many times!!

its wierd when you are laughing and crying at the same time.

"run away from start to finish though it never ends
In her mind she is blinded by all she sees"

I swear David wrote this about me. I want to meet him JUST to thank him for Makeover. When i'm having a bad day i turn it on and it's like my feelings are that song. Does that sound crazy?

oh no, its not crazy at all.

"its not me" If that is not what every single guy that has rejected me has said, i dont know what is. The town that dosent give a single *&#$ either way...my town yo...


Can we share the song? Lets promise to thank him for the both of us, if one of us gets to...lol

Another reason why I think he is so likeable, he can touch so many people in so many ways. We have needed an artist like this to come along for far too long now.

I promised myself that I would go to bed soon and not stay up till 4 am on these boards, but I will add you to my friends and we can chat again later if you want

take care!

Locked and closed? No way! This thread is inspirational with a capital I. and I hope a huge wake up call to everyone who has been getting all jumpy with this D-K thing. Thank you so much Dee for your prolix but certainly eye-opening and honest post.

Sometimes we have to learn the hard way, but taking inspiration from you Dee, I'd like to add that life's too short to make all the mistakes yourselves, so take heart from other people's mistakes as well.

I've been repeating this in variation like a broken-record player but here I go again: We want David happy, we've worked hard to make David happy, and whoever David chooses to share his happiness with is up to him. It's him time, no? We'll always be his Wordnerds that helped him with those million of votes, NO ONE can take that away from us, we know it, David knows it, everyone knows it. But most importantly, we fell in love with that voice, and that's really what it's all about.

So thank you Dee. I hope that everyone will calm down and just let it be.

Cheers!

There should be a thread about this song. I got chills the first time I heard it, because I couldn't understand how David had written a song about me. I usually cry when a listen to it, and I'm not a big crier. I was in a very serious car accident when I was 15 and was in a wheelchair for a long time. Those circumstances and the inevitable progression of events after seemed to tie me to a hellhole of a town, so the line about "her broken legs won't let her walk away, from this town that couldn't give a single shit either way" absolutely cuts to my soul.

On a happier note, just over a decade later, I am a very normal person and not only can I walk, I have some unusual strengths and skills because of all of the prosthetic implants they used. My friends call me the bionic woman (I wish it was that extreme).

I am so beyond thrilled that a few of you responded with the nice words and comments you had about what I said. Its really exhilarating that my words resonated with other people. Not to sound selfish or anything, cause I know that we are supposed to be talking about David, but honestly if it was not form him and for the folks that run this site, I would have never had this outlet to express how I feel and come to some pretty life changing realizations.

Its so crazy how sharing that story and seeing the parallels, even when its someone that I may never meet such as David, made me realize and understand myself a little bit more and how I was actin a fool!

For a long time I have been really depressed, I’m adopted, and African American living in a town that is not suited for me, I don’t have much family, or friends like I used to, my adopted mom passed away (still cant shake that after 5 years, feelings of she was the only one who ever really wanted me, and the only one who ever will, that sort of thing.) I’m not in good health, made some pretty bad decisions by way of that, never been in love with a man, yadda yadda yadda (everyone has their own sad stories ya know) but just seeing those who have also shared, and understood where I was coming from, really touched me and brought me to tears.

I keep on saying that David needed his music to be heard and we needed David. I needed David. Every pic I see makes me smile, every song touches me, every time I get to experience all that he has to offer as an artist keeps underlying in me that I can change. I’m inspired. I can be a better friend, sister, daughter, leader at work, a better all around human being. I can fulfill my dreams and I CAN have a future. Its been a very long time since I have felt that kind of hope. Its been a very long time since I have not let my wallowing sadness and despair take complete control over my entire being, and I owe a bit portion of that to this man and his gift.

Things happen for a reason and the power of music and humanity is enormous.



p.s On a totally different note, has anyone else had trouble when you type David, you end up typing DAvid or Davis? Or am I just inept when it comes keyboard proficiency??

Lol, maybe for a new thread…