What the f**k?!

Just over a year... And I thought he loved me. I guess I was wrong.
He was about to dump me. So I just did it. Got it over with.
And now I'm dizzy.

over Angelina Jolie and DC? what happened?

but if he was going to dump you, then you did right girl.. Girl power

I don't even know what really happened. It's 2:40 and it happened at 2. I dunno if we're just mad or really over and I can't figure out how such a stupid topic turned into a fight.
He said he thinks Angie is hot.
And I said that I think David is hot.
And suddenly he said that I told him before that David isn't hot.
And I said I changed the subject (and I did!) because I knew he didn't wanna hear me talk about David.
Next thing I know we're fighiting and I'm a liar! (according to him, but I didn't lie).

okay... i hope you don't mind but how old are you both?

wasn't this the boyfriend who's judgemental?

he planned on breaking up with you?
what the...why?

Yes. He's too judgemental. And he didn't plan on breaking up with me until five minutes before I dumped him.
I told him to stop being so judgemental, is part of it.
We're pretty young. I'm 18. He's 17.
It's not bothering me as much as I thought it would... I guess I'm just used to this when it comes to relationships. I'm a failure at them.

awww. you're not a failure at relationships. you just haven't found the guy worth working hard at it for.

and yeah you're right. you are young. so enjoy being single. i had my first bf when i was 25 i only had to kiss one frog before i found my prince. so enjoy single life and have fun!

Typing my DC fan fic and looking at Cookie is making me feel better. Weird.

oh i see
but don't say that about yourself
no one's perfect and when humans aren't perfect, relationships, situations, etc. will never be perfect
it's not that you're bad at it but because the compatibility weren't that great

I hate being single. I'm no good in relationships. And I'm fairly positive we're not broken up. It's just a stupid fight.
We say things we don't mean and the next day we're fine.
It doesn't happen a lot, but it happens.

Well, i think i can say i'm not good at relationships eather.. I'm 17 and i've never had a bf.. i think i'm not going to get any cause i'm so shy.. i always have a huge crush on somebody who i know i can't get so i don't have problems like asking him out and disapoint when he says no and stuff I'm waiting (i think when i'm like 50 and i'm still waiting) that someone funny and cute (=mr. right) will ask me out.. I'm hopeless And we all have Cookie who we love ;D btw i think your bf is a dork

My boyfriend is the most intelligent guy I've ever met. But when it comes to girls he doesn't get ANYTHING. He's clueless.
Thank God for David. I could use a pickmeup.
I've been through sooo many guys and I finally thought taht this was someone that would stick around. And he claims he's been trying... but I don't see it. I'm raising my standards, not because I want him to be David or anything, but because the kindness I see in David's heart is something that my boyfriend lacks in his own.

i am single for almost all my life
because i have too high of a standard
my friends think i'm insane to have such high standard but yeah am not gonna date a guy, just cause
and tbh my standards might be normal to some but where i live, boy, it's so hard to find an intelligent and articulate guy here
every guy i meet/met are ugh! childf**kingdish!

I love Andrew's sense of humor.
And I love how smart he is. And he's terribly attractive. He's the works... until it comes down to the way he judges everyone and everything.
He never sees the good in things, it seems. Rather than complimenting how beautiful a flower looks, he finds a flaw and doesn't let go.

If this boy doesn't find himself a kinder heart he's never going to get anywhere... I keep telling him that I like guys who don't try to be anything other than themselves and who are accepting of others. And he doesn't get it. It doesn't click with him.

but then again, he's still young
and i guess he's in that mind state of having the world going against him
i guess in due time, he'll realize his flaws and will try to change it
he probably needs more time or influence than you do (guys are always like that, it's hard to persuade them into believing something)

He's so stubborn.
Nothing seems to work. We haven't kissed in 2 weeks. Not even kissed. I don't even ge that.
As of right now, we're broken up.

Aww I'm sorry Lindz! You always talking about him and how happy you guys were! But if he was gonna dump you than you did the right thing. If you have any doubts you should try and talk it out tho,it seems silly that he would wanna dump you because of such a stupid fight - maybe there's more to it. You never know... Good luck! hope this cheers you up.......

Hiya Lindz, how is everything today? Hope you're feeling better...

I just popped by to say that at 18 you're to young to worry about being in a relationship. Enjoy life! Get out there, have fun and exert some youthful independence.... because you have your whole life to find love and settle down!

I know... It's weird... And now that it has happened I feel like it was a stupid, pointless, nothing fight that just went too far. And I'm pissed, but I'm not crying. Maybe because I'm sure it's just a nothing fight... I tried talking and explaining my point of view. He doesn't want to hear it.
He doesn't believe that I called it off in fear that he was going to call it off first! There's a ton more to it. There's just no relevance at the same time.
Thank you for the picture! It helps for sure!




Thank you.
You're so very encouraging. I've always given the same advice to others.
It's just hard to follow my own.... Oh well. We'll see what happens tomorrow.... or in six hours... because I'm supposed to be asleep right now.

I'm just glad I have you wonderful ladies (and some guys) on this site to talk to. I love coming here and chatting about David. It makes me feel better.

what? no kissing? for two weeks???? i don't think i can even get through an hour without kissing my bf, if we're together of course. do you see each other every day? HOW CAN THERE BE NO KISSING????

I don't get that

Let me give you some advice, from a woman that could be your mother (I'm 40 years old)...

1--DO NOT SETTLE FOR A MAN, EVER...I made the big mistake of settling for someone that I was not truly in love with, because the man before him (the guy that I thought was THE ONE) took my heart and ripped it into little pieces. I ended up marrying the man that I settled for, but I knew right away it was a mistake. We are now divorced, as I knew in my heart he was not the one. I'm still looking for Mr. Right, but I think that's because I won't just settle now for a warm body next to mine...

2--Having said that, there will be lots of men in your future--you are so very young. You have your whole life in front of you...

3--Please, just don't compare men/guys in the real world to your fantasy of David. They will never live up to that, and to be honest, neither would David. He is NOT perfect--he is HUMAN, and he has flaws just like everyone else...

I'm sorry that you and your guy broke up, but maybe it was meant to be...take some time for yourself, and figure out what it is you want in life. Please don't take this the wrong way, but what you feel for David is a 'crush'...trust me, there are women of all ages that have a 'crush' on him, and in time, that crush will either fade or evolve into a true appreciation for the man and his music...

I totally agree with u.. i'm so proud to be part of a forum where everyone is so great. Not only do we all share love for David but we always there to pick each other up!

i totally agree with everything you said. especially the last paragraph. as much as i love david, i'd choose my boyfriend over him anytime because what we have is real.

btw, i ADORE your siggy!

You give great advice! Especially this part, i agree with you 100%. We all make mistakes, nobody is perfect - not even David. We all love crushing on him but you can't compare him with you're boyfriend - how will he ever be able to live up to that. Seems a little unfair towards him don't ya think?

This advice is not going to make sense for a few years.

But try to remember that the both of you are not completely the people you are meant to be yet. You both still have so much more growing and life experiences to shape the grown grownups you are going to be one day.

I've been there and married the guy I fell in love with when I was 18. By the time I was 28 I realized neither of us were the same people and shouldn't be together. Needless to say we are divorced.

Your relationships will teach you things about yourself to help you make better decisions in the next relationship until that "one" relationship arrives. And then you'll know that you had to go through all the other relationships good and bad to really REALLY know and appreciate that you've finally found the right one.

Good luck and be happy!

completely agree with you! and with #3, yes, even the most perfect guy has gross, dirty underwear!

i know it's cliche, but you are so very young. don't EVER settle for a man who makes you feel less than a queen. i was engaged when i was 17 (looking back, just a dumb thing to anger my parents) to a guitarist who wanted to take over the world. however, he was constantly accusing me of cheating on him. i knew i could never live my whole life putting up with that so i let him go. it was hard for awhile and it seemed like my whole world was crashing down. but then, i realized i enjoyed being single and started dating. a lot. i kissed a lot of frogs to find my prince. i really embraced being single, trying to weed through the idiots that were out there.

my now husband is the first guy that didn't annoy the crap out of me. and, amazingly enough, after 7 years of marriage, he still doesn't.

sorry i started rambling on, but it's a passion of mine, that no girl (or guy, for that matter) should EVER settle for someone because it's comfortable. enjoy being young and having fun!

You're welcome, and you know what... i'm exactly the same! I give some of the best advice in the world (according to my friends!), but when it comes down to it I never listen to myself!!!

Thanks--the amazing and talented T.C. Robson made it...I like to think of it as DC at the beginning, and then DC at the end (as I am thru with him...LOL!).

aww lindz i'm super sorry, but just listen to katsluvr's advice and know that everything is going work itself out!

I 100% agree on everything what you said.

There are still lots of fish in the sea and one of them is waiting for you. Besides, both of you are still young. Enjoy as being single and remember there are lots of people who truly loves you aside from him.

one day you will look back at this relationship you had at 18 and you would have grown so much older and wiser.

This relationship is a parcel of growing up, sometimes growing up is tough!

and you will find a prince someday

Girl, if a boy is jealous over your celebrity crush, that means that he is insecure and that is not someone you wanna be around!

And if anything, THE SUMMER WILL BE MORE EXCITING cause like, you're single!

let the guy go, you dont need him.
AND YOU're 18!! live your life!!!

i'm 19 and was in a very jealous relationship for a year and 8 months. trust me
((((lifetime of knowledge.)))))

Honey you better learn to like being single and do it soon or you will put up with way too much crap. Trust me.

I totally agree with all the advice on here!
Especially the part about expecting men to be as 'perfect' as David is, as he isn't perfect! I have dated someone who was in a pretty successful UK band, and remember thinking he'd be exactly like he was on Kerrang! TV...but of course, things are never that simple!

I'm 23 now, and have been single for *thinks* 3 years, if you discount 'dates' (which I have been on a few) I love being single, I have finished my degree, trained as a teacher, became a teacher and got promoted to a coordinator. I am saving to travel and I know if I had a partner it would hold me back from doing all the things I love to do!

Just enjoy time with your friends and family, it's always when you least expect it that love smacks you in the face! (or so I've heard!)

Thanks for all of the advice from all of you!
I would NEVER replace a guy with a celebrity crush. EVER.
I know that David isn't perfect. I just like what I see. Haha. I like nice guys who don't judge everyone that comes within fifty feet of them. And I'm not asking my boyfriend... or ex... I dunno what he is... To live up to the standards of somebody I see on TV. I'm just asking him to think more and judge less before he goes off like a bomb.
Every guy I've ever been with is a musician. Maybe that's my problem. I don't know. lol.
The guy sent me 4 texts today. Apparently none of them were for me. I'm not sure how that works out. But that's what he said.
I don't know right now.
I just know that I'm letting things work themselves out and whatever happens I'm sure happens for the best.
Maybe we need to be over forever. And maybe we just need a break. We'll see.
One thing I know is that even though he's being a jerk, I'd pick him over a celebrity crush ANY day.
I don't think David is perfect at all. Lol
It takes a lot more than what I see in the media to win me over completely. It took this guy a month to convince me to go out with him.
Maybe this is why...
I just think the whole fight is stupid and if he wants to dump me over it then he's a moron.

Thank you all so much!
All of the advice is helpful and I fell wayyy better!



Only problem with that is that I only have a few friends... And my very good friend is in Texas.
I don't have a best friend to go to for things like this.
Which sucks...

Glad you're feeling better Lindz! everything will work out for the best, you'll see. There's a reason for everything that happens in life. Stay strong!

Amen! I mean, men and women, we're all red-blooded beings. We'll definitely notice others of the opposite gender who are attractive to us. Doesn't matter if we're single, married, in a relationship, or whatever.

Just because we notice doesn't mean we're automatically inclined to stray or that we love our significant others any less. Anyone who doesn't understand that has a heck of a lot of growing up to do, and is not someone you need to have bring you down.

I told him I wished he'd grow up and that offended him. lol
UGHHH. We'll see what happens.
I may not be smooth with my words like he is, but at leaset I'm not acting like a fool.

Good for you! Stand your ground and don't let him sweet talk his way back.

Honey, if you guys broke up something as silly as AJ and DC then trust me it's not a relationship worth being in. I've been married to my college sweetheart for 11 years now and we have fought over some things that could have easily had us headed to divorce court, but we love each other and very committed to one another so it works.

Don't say you're not good at relationships, because truth be told none of us are but it's something that we have to work at to make it work IF there is a genuine love between two partners. So this guy you broke up with may not be the one.. or he may, it's just that he needs time to mature. Either way, take this time for yourself to re-evaulate what you are looking for in a serious relationship and go from there.

Happy Friday to ya!

Chica

Thanks. =/
It's just getting worse right now. But oh well. I'm trying to face the facts that this is never going to work.
It's just weird.
I've been with him for a year which is a miracle for me.
And i'mm terrible with change.
I just can't be with someone who threatened to dump me. So I had to do it. And he doesn't get it.
He never gets it. Oh well. When college comes around there will be plenty of others...

*sigh* Lindz...my "Pokemon-buddy"

i have had bad relationships in the past....my last one was the worst, though. i was with a guy for a year and a half, and he thought he was the "last of his breed" (.....yep, like a dog ) b/c acclaimed himself to being 'perfect' (SSSOOOO far from the truth).

he would just act one way around ppl, and another way around me....like i was his 'trophy'...and it sucked (for lack of a better term )

but of course he wasnt going to break up with me (b/c he thought he could push me around, and i wouldn't do anything)...but he was wrong, and i broke up w/ him.

now ive just been waiting for a 'good' guy(*cough* that isnt gay *cough* )...it just takes some time...and we are always the ones that have to wait through it all

~ashley

Im sooo impatient.
He told me he was going to lunch with his mom and that he was done talking to me and I said "Good, make sure you tell her we broke up due to your insecurities. Make sure she knows we broke up because you're controlling and you threatened me."
And he hasn't texted me back.
He said he has nothing to apologize for becuase I lied. I never lied!

oh good lord, is he one of those "self-righteous" types??? where everything he does is right, and everything you do is wrong??

those are definitely some of the worst...i must say that i have dated a few and good help them because they were all pretty much jerks...lindz you seem like such a sweet person that i wouldn't doubt it if you found someone else very very quickly, just remember that its what he's missing out on and he'll regret it one day!

Haha. That's what it's beginning to look like.




Thank you. He's the first to be that way... or maybe he's the first that I've noticed since he's my longest relationship....
Thank you though. I'm terrible at finding guys... They're usually brought to me. =/
I mean, I have someone in mind right now... Sort of... Like, not someone I wanna date. He's just the kind of guy that I like. He's another... dare I say it.... musician... Great family, known him for years, tons of fun, has a great job. I need someone like him.
It's just difficult for me.
I've always been considered "odd" or "different".
Then, I meet Andrew who makes sense to me... And all of a sudden things come crashing down.
All because he has David Cook and David Archuleta mixed up.
I told him I didn't think Archie was attractive. And he got him mixed up with DC. And now he's saying I lied when I said that Cookie wasn't attractive, which I didn't, because he has the two mixed up. So the whole fight comes down to me being a liar.

Ugh... those are the worst! I once dated one who was not only that, but he was so arrogant to think that I would never leave him, no matter what he did (even cheating). Yeah, like I was that stupid.


He's calling you a liar because he got confused? Oh, lordy, that's rich! Can anyone be any more self-righteous and arrogant?

I have to say that you have been given some excellent advice here and I almost don't think there is much more to add. I will tell you this though. It's never good to settle on the first guy that comes along. I known others that have done it and there marriages have ended up in bad divorces or bad boyfriend/girlfriend breakups. I have a friend who months ago broke up with a guy she had been seeing for several months. She is almost 34-years-old. When she met this guy, he was divorced single father. I noticed every time I would talk with her on the phone or in person, our meetings and conversations were brief because she had things she had to take care of. It was like she was really scared of him and afriad of what he would do if she didn't get home by a certain time or such and such. A few months later, they ended up breaking up and she moved out of the house. She was scared to death of him at the time when the split up, but she was happy. In fact, she acted as if she was the happiest she had been in quite sometime.

To me, it sounds like you are too nice of a person to be with a guy like this. You deserve much better than to be treated this way. You do have many years ahead of you and I'm sure when the time is right, the right guy will come along.

okay, so im going to be completely honest here and please take it in the best way possible...but if he took a situation as petty as an argument over cookie and archie and managed to turn it into an argument that you lie and finds it to be enough to dump you, then he probably needs to be smacked...lol. jmo, but ya no...

Oh, trust me. I know, right?
He's stupid.
It's not okay for him to get confused. So, I have to be the confused one instead.





I'm thinkin the same thing right now. lol.
Thank you.
And I'm happy/sorry for your friend at the same time!

He's definitely not the first guy... And he's not the "first" guy either. And part of what makes it suck so bad was that I was the "first" girl. And he always hated that he wasn't "the first". If you catch my drift....





I agree.
If this is really over, I'm putting everything he gave me in a box, going to his house, giving it back, and slapping him in the face.