Okay, so this is a little out of left field but I'm kinda pissy and I know I can vent with you guys. I want a guy that wants more than to get in my pants!! Yeah I'm lonely physically, but I'm also lonely emotionally. Why don't guys get that?! I need a guy who's funny and smart and talented and hot and a gentlemen (a.k.a. DC). Apparently guys w/ DC like qualities are VERY few and very far between. GRRRR.....
Sorry for going off on a tangent, but I had to vent. Feel free to vent your frustrations w/ the male gender on here. I know you have them!
Full Version: Besides DC, men that don't suck
You need ............Cookie !
Psst ..sheesh but so do all the rest of us !
Psst ..sheesh but so do all the rest of us !
all men can be jerks at one point or another. thats what they do. just keep looking and you will eventually find someone that is right for you. ive been with my boyfriend for 12 years, and i will tell you what, there are many occasions when i would love to stab him with a fork (or some other sharp kitchen object), but the majority of the time he is the best boyfriend/friend that i could ask for. you have got to find one that is easily trainable- thats the secret to being happy in a relationship. 
There's plenty of nice guys out there, but at the risk of being yelled out by the opposite sex, it seems to me that a lot of women--not all--are more attracted to guys with an edge, and those guys can turn bad pretty quickly.
It's not right to generalize about either sex, but I think we have to really look at the people we attract and why we attract them. If you bypass a nice guy who might not be the most exciting person in the world for a guy that's kind of dangerous, who turns out to be a jerk, you have to look at your own role in that relationship. Having said that, I know that even good men can be insensitive and self centered sometimes, so you have to be careful out there.
It's not right to generalize about either sex, but I think we have to really look at the people we attract and why we attract them. If you bypass a nice guy who might not be the most exciting person in the world for a guy that's kind of dangerous, who turns out to be a jerk, you have to look at your own role in that relationship. Having said that, I know that even good men can be insensitive and self centered sometimes, so you have to be careful out there.
QUOTE (bioguy @ Jun 26 2008, 03:25 PM) 
There's plenty of nice guys out there, but at the risk of being yelled out by the opposite sex, it seems to me that a lot of women--not all--are more attracted to guys with an edge, and those guys can turn bad pretty quickly.
It's not right to generalize about either sex, but I think we have to really look at the people we attract and why we attract them. If you bypass a nice guy who might not be the most exciting person in the world for a guy that's kind of dangerous, who turns out to be a jerk, you have to look at your own role in that relationship. Having said that, I know that even good men can be insensitive and self centered sometimes, so you have to be careful out there.
It's not right to generalize about either sex, but I think we have to really look at the people we attract and why we attract them. If you bypass a nice guy who might not be the most exciting person in the world for a guy that's kind of dangerous, who turns out to be a jerk, you have to look at your own role in that relationship. Having said that, I know that even good men can be insensitive and self centered sometimes, so you have to be careful out there.
You are dead right, Bioguy, if we end up with a-holes all the time the problem is with our choices. Same thing for guys and the women they date.
There's no such thing as the "perfect" guy. Every guy, even DC, will have his failings. *ducks objects being thrown her way*
Seriously, there will always be something about a guy that will, at best, annoy you, or at worst, piss you off. Some things are no big deal, like when a guy leaves the seat up on the potty (I honestly don't know why some women get upset about that), while others are obviously not, like if he puts you down in front of other people. At the same time, I know there are things that we women do that get on men's nerves.
Each person in the relationship has to decide what little quirks and so forth they're willing to deal with in a partner. It's a very delicate balance; you shouldn't be a complete doormat and let the other person get away with doing things that hurt you, but you shouldn't be completely uptight either.
Seriously, there will always be something about a guy that will, at best, annoy you, or at worst, piss you off. Some things are no big deal, like when a guy leaves the seat up on the potty (I honestly don't know why some women get upset about that), while others are obviously not, like if he puts you down in front of other people. At the same time, I know there are things that we women do that get on men's nerves.
Each person in the relationship has to decide what little quirks and so forth they're willing to deal with in a partner. It's a very delicate balance; you shouldn't be a complete doormat and let the other person get away with doing things that hurt you, but you shouldn't be completely uptight either.
the best way to meet a guy who thinks like you is to go to public events that interest you
if youre a republican, go to republican parties...
if youre an Apple fanatic, buy a ticket to WWDC....
you get the idea
if youre a republican, go to republican parties...
if youre an Apple fanatic, buy a ticket to WWDC....
you get the idea
QUOTE (CookieHoney @ Jun 26 2008, 07:41 PM)
There's no such thing as the "perfect" guy. Every guy, even DC, will have his failings. *ducks objects being thrown her way*
LOL, I asked my husband to clean something up and he rolled his eyes and said "I suppose David would have done that without being asked"
Of course I replied, no hun, in fact from what I have read and seen he is messy like you, sleeps and watches TV and plays John Madden football.
Of course I might forgive David all of that much more quickly than my in real life husband
I completely understand what y'all are sayin and I agree w/ you. I look for nice guys. Trust me, I learned about what the bad boy will do to your life the hard way. It's just frustrating. But is it to much to ask for guy to treat you good? I just want to connect on all levels with a guy - emotionally, physically, and mentally - but I'm not seeming to find that. Again, I wasn't trying to diss the male species at all, I was just venting. I'm sure there are plenty of good ones out there.
I don't make endorsements to people I don't know, ever, really. But I thought of this as I read your post. The following is one of the most helpful books I've ever read:
http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Looking-Someone...7111&sr=1-5
It's an easy read, and it may give you hope.
http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Looking-Someone...7111&sr=1-5
It's an easy read, and it may give you hope.
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