My niece, Kira, is only 8. On Wednesday morning at about 6:30-ish, I believe, she will be going in to have surgery on her back, spinal area, and possibly her gallbladder removed, if I remember correctly. To be honest, I'm scared, mainly because this is a major sugery and I feel so helpless.

I'm always the strong one or whatever, I know that she looks up to me...everyone says so, plus she practically copies everything I do. I don't know what I'm supposed to do, I'll be there at the hospital with her, I already promised her I would, but I don't know what else to do. I can't just sit there and do nothing, but I'm going to have to.

No one knows exactly how much this effects me. I told my cousin how I feel, and she just said it's not as bad as open-heart surgery, her grandfather had that, and I know that, but still, I'm scared to death that something might happen. My mom doesn't really care how I feel, she is only there for my sister and I understand that, but how am I supposed to deal with this? I don't know what to do, I've never been this scared before. How do I deal with this?

Trust that the doctor's will do their very best to help your niece and trust in your faith.

I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Jess

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My niece, Kira, is only 8. On Wednesday morning at about 6:30-ish, I believe, she will be going in to have surgery on her back, spinal area, and possibly her gallbladder removed, if I remember correctly. To be honest, I'm scared, mainly because this is a major sugery and I feel so helpless.

I'm always the strong one or whatever, I know that she looks up to me...everyone says so, plus she practically copies everything I do. I don't know what I'm supposed to do, I'll be there at the hospital with her, I already promised her I would, but I don't know what else to do. I can't just sit there and do nothing, but I'm going to have to.

No one knows exactly how much this effects me. I told my cousin how I feel, and she just said it's not as bad as open-heart surgery, her grandfather had that, and I know that, but still, I'm scared to death that something might happen. My mom doesn't really care how I feel, she is only there for my sister and I understand that, but how am I supposed to deal with this? I don't know what to do, I've never been this scared before. How do I deal with this?
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Well you are very sweet to be worried for your niece, but this is a lesson in having faith. Trust that everything will be fine.
I actually had my gallbladder out a few years ago, and it only took about 2 hours and I was home by 11 am. I had a little bit of pain around my stiches, but that was it. And 2 years later you would never really know I had the surgery. In fact, I didn't even remember it being surgery, until you just wrote that word.
Please try to talk to your mom about it. It may seem like she doesn't understand, but just ask her if you can tell her how you feel. Sometimes Mom's just don't want you to be worried, so they might not act like it is important.

And just look at all this David Cook stuff on this site to keep your mind off of it!!

Have a good night and go to bed!!!

Thanks guys. I have been praying and all, and she is on the prayer list at my church, my whole family is. She is pretty much going to have to spend the rest of the summer in bed. I try to trust the doctors, but she has been having problems since she stated crawling and the doctors didn't know a thing back then, although she is now going to a specialist. So I do have a little more faith that they know what they are talking about now. Thanks for taking the time to read what has been weighing on my mind for a while now.

Oh and I deffinately have been looking at all the David stuff on here. I have his songs on repeat on my iPod, it seems to be helping some as well.

i pray that the operation will go smoothly and your niece will recover gradually:) i understand how you must feel. my dad's going in for a surgery thursday for hermia (sp?). he's gonna come home that day, but he's been worried and i have been as well cuz my principal died earlier this year after getting a knee surgery (she got both operated on at the same time.) she actually went in january, was only supposed to be out for a little while then come back to school. then she had a brain clot and went into a coma. after a while, she was pretty much just a vegetable and well, they took off the tube:(

so i hope both of our loved ones will make it! i'm worryin about my driver's test wednesday (yup my birthday) and my dad the next day.

((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

I work with critically ill kids. First of all, take care of yourself so you can be there for Kira. Get some of her favorite things to watch and listen to at first, and then to play when she has more energy. Just be there for her and help her when you can by helping her move around, or wash her face, or whatever she needs at that moment.

You are an amazing aunt and I know that Kira appreciates you everyday.

I'll be sure to keep your dad in my prayers as well, and good luck on your driver's test.



(Hugs back)

I have a portable cd player that I'm going to give her and I also made a cd of David for her (she's been begging me for one since before he won).


Thanks