Ok this is really OT. But i need to ask u guys something. Well i had this guy that i started liking than started dating last year, he really liked me. But then at Chrismas he did a heartless thing. I broke up with him. Then after break i come back and after about a week i take him back! He was paying even more attention 2 me. I liked it alot. Then around Valentines Day i found out he was cheating on me with someon in my homeroom. I found out about the gifts he gave to her. I was even more heartbroken then the first time. Broke up with him. Then like 2-3 week later i take him back for the same reasons as the first. Everthing was fine until about May. Then one of his friends tell me that he wants me to go down to this lake like area(it's in my neirborhood) and screw him). I was shocked. I thought about it. Cause i thought maybe he would not screw me i thought maybe we could talk. But as the weeks went by it seemed like he was just going to screw me. I did not go down there.
He tells that same person to tell me all of these mean names and that he was breaking up with me even though i had already broken up with him.
He's very protective by the way. I had no guy friends. he told me what he liked me in and didn't.
He brought alot of Bad attention to me. I was the most worst talked about girl of my grade.
HE WOULD LSO FLING HIMSELF INTO LOCKERS AND CALL ME BAD NAMES when i would even try to break up with him.

The thing that scares me is that i have a feeling he's gonna make the next grade a living hell!!
WHAT DO I DO!!!!!!!!!!!






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Ok, you're 14 & this is classic high school drama. The best advice I can give you is: Stop talking to this guy you've been dating, breaking up, getting back together, he's cheating on you, you break up again.....blah blah blah. It's an endless cycle & only YOU can make it stop. END ALL COMMUNICATION. If there's one thing I've learned about men/relationships, it's that you have to have more self worth. You're "teaching" this guy how to treat you- like crap. And also that you're a door-mat & he knows that you'll keep taking him back. Stop it! I had a guy like that about 6 years ago that I was allowing to continually treat me like sh*t, thinking that one day he'll change & start treating me better. WRONG! I finally realized he didn't give a d*mn about me & we stopped talking. We haven't spoken or seen each other in 3 years & I can't tell you how much better my life has been since he's been gone. It's a huge relief.

Now, I realize you're still in school & you see him & all these people talking bad about you every day you're in class. The best thing you can do is to let people know what's going on in case this escalates. Tell adults, like your parents, a guidance counselor or a teacher you trust, someone. Tell your friends so they can have your back. Do the best you can at ignoring the things people say. It sounds dumb I'm sure but the more you show that it bothers you, the more it will continue. After awhile, I'm sure it will die down.

Also, as far as this "going down to the lake & screwing" business....always trust your instincts. I'm glad you didn't go but don't trust boys that age, seriously. And you mentioned you "had no guy friends"...what about now??? I've always been one to have a great army of platonic guy friends who were protective of me...you should do the same.

I hope everything works out & remember again: It's high school. 4 years from now when you graduate you're going to look back & roll your eyes. It can be some of the most fun times in your life, or the worst times if you let stupid drama get the best of you.

GOOD LUCK!

Thanks!!!!!!!!! No guy friends right now. Cause it's summer. Then i forgot 2 metion this in the orginal post.But last thursday i found out he was cheating on me with the same girl! Ifound that out over myspace. He had been doing it since May which means while he was making plans 2 screw me he had a nother girlfriend on the side!

That sucks. Any type of relationship at that age needs to be taken with a grain of salt. You're so young with SO many more years ahead of you....and lots of awesome boys to meet too! It's all a big lesson in learning. I'm almost 30 & STILL learning. It's a process.... lol

Hang in there....all boys/men are not bad!

There's still David!!! And we all know he's not bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

David is definitely an exception to the rule...that boy is a Blessing!

A gift from God..............a really nice lovable man!!!

Sorry--I know you're 14, but--David is NOT a sex toy. He is an intelligent, caring, talented ADULT male who is 25 years old, and to label him as a sex toy (especially by someone your age) is just demeaning to him and his other fans. Just my opinion, but I know others on here share this opinion.

Please don't forget that David's family and friends pop into this board--is this the impression you want to make?

No not really! Sorry Cook family. I was only messing. And he is way more than a toy!!!!!!!!