I already have tickets to a show on September 6th. (Not bad seats...first row of a side section not too far from stage.) But I went to a BBQ in NJ yesterday and my sister's neighbor works at the stadium where the tour is on 7/30-7/31. He said he might be able to get me (and my sis of course) really good floor seats for 7/31.

I was sooo excited and played Cook music all day. I showed him my DC shirts, bracelets, pin, etc. and the guy said he would try to get me amazing seats. (Will know by Monday.) My sister and I couldn't stop jumping up and down.

However, my dear hubby was VERY upset. He thinks my Cook obsession is getting out of hand. He said he didn't want me to go. I almost cried

BUT...My 40th birthday is in a little over 2 weeks away and he keeps asking me what I want. You guessed it...

What I REALLY want is for a Limo to take me from CT to NJ that night so I can see my Cookie!
However, I am too afraid to tell this to my husband. No piece of jewelry will make up for missing a chance to be up close at that concert!

Do you think I should risk upsetting my DH over DC? Is it worth it???

Go for it! It would definitely be worth it, and you might resent your husband for the rest of your life if he causes you to miss this opportunity. If he is a good husband he will understand. Just let him know how special he is for understanding.

CravingCookie - this is a dilema. Part of me says that you should go for it since you have the contact who works for the arena and the other part of me is saying that if this will upset your husband you should maybe wait until David comes to CT. I don't think that this is worth getting your husband worked up. There will also be plenty of times when David will come to NYC for the media tour when his CD comes out and when he starts his solo tour. But that's just me - I doubt David would like to know that you and your husband are at odds because you wanted to come to the concert. Maybe over the next week or so your husband might have a change of heart for you coming to NJ.

Go...
go...
goooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!
You have an opportunity of a lifetime! You're husband will get over it. Just give him really, really, really good "you know what" before and after. Men are so easy to please, if you catch my drift! Besides, if he says you can't go, he's a meanie poopie head and you should divorce him! No, no, I am just kidding... he's still a meanie poopie head though if he says that! If I still lived in NJ, you can bet your ass that I would do everything in my power to go to the Newark or AC concert. If my husband got in my way (thankfully, I know he wouldn't) I would put him on my sh*t list for a long time. He knows better. I hope everything works out for you and your hubby gives in and pleases you! GOOD LUCK!

I don't know.....If it was me, I'd stick to the original plan and skip the second show. I don't think you'll do much better than front row anyway. If you're going mainly for Cookie, save it for his solo tour.

Trust me, after 30 years of marriage, I can tell you that compromise is the key.

You take one show and give hubby the other.

Good luck and enjoy.

This is a difficult decision for you, but only you can know why your husband is upset over something which is actually pretty trivial. Your husband can't possibly think you are going to leave him for DC, yet being upset over you going to the concert is probably caused either by jealousy or by the need to "punish you" for something else.

He doesn't realize that anything that turns you on - even an "obsession" with a young rock star - is really going to benefit HIM in the long run. Just as his getting turned on by some young thing on TV ultimately benefits you. You have a few months before the concert to work this out with him. If his problem is jealousy, he is insecure for some reason - and you are the only one who can turn this around for him. Good luck!

Carole
#24 X-rated Cougar

P.S. - I guess I'm really lucky. I can sit here on this board for four hours in full view of my husband and he couldn't care less.

P.S. - I guess I'm really lucky. I can sit here on this board for four hours in full view of my husband and he couldn't care less.
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That was too funny! Yes, you are a lucky one. Guess I just haven't been married long enough yet!

I don't think my husband is jealous so much as that he thinks I am acting like a silly teeny-bopper. (I have 3 kids too by the way) Also, this is totally out of character for me since I have never really been a "fanatic" for anyone or anything in all the years we have been together. I think he believes DC is part of a mid-life crisis and wants me to SNAP out of it!

Tara:

I think alot of us are going through what you are feeling right now (you are not alone) - I am 51 and I have not been this crazed over someone for years (whether it as been Jon Bon Jovi, Bruce Springsteen, ect.)- Our David just brings all these feelings out we have been bottling up for years I guess out into the open..

I would probably skip the second show. I was hoping to go to another show...looking up tickets and everything. Then I decided I'm going to save it for his solo tour!

To be honest ... GO! GO! GO! If you dont go, you will blame your DH and make life unhappy. Your DH does understand that you LOVE him and you LIKE (well you know what I mean ) DC ... your DH will understand and if he doesnt tell him to calm down and breathe ... but seriously GO GO GO!

Because I know how it feels to be *such* a big fan of DC and I wish I could go to more than one concert this summer, part of me is screaming for you to go if you can. And if you aren't causing anybody any harm by acting like a "silly teeny-bopper," I don't see the problem. Especially since you say you haven't behaved like this over anyone or anything before. But I'm not married, so there you go. Bottom line, if it's going to be an issue between you and your husband and since you're already going to one show, as much as I'd hate to do it, I'd probably give up the other, just to keep peace.

My hubby doesn't even know I got a ticket for the show in ATlanta. I could only get a single seat, so I am going alone. I would have gotten tickets for all of us if they were available. But he's going to have to pick up our son from afterschool on the day of the concert.

I am waiting a while to tell him.

DC is magic. That is why women all over the country are amazed by him. His heart and soul draw you into his music. His looks are an added bonus. I really doubt DC understands his appeal. He wouldn't believe it if we explained it to him.

I would definitely go for it. This may never come up again and you're So So So lucky it happened to you!! And plus, play the "but it's my birthday" card, and how can anyone say no to something you want for your birthday?

I'm a lot younger and I'm not married, but here's my advice: Don't go more than once. If you do get the amazing seats, go to that show and sell your tickets for the other show. And if you don't, just stick with your original plan. Because it seems like your husband has a problem with you going twice, not with you going...

I would say take the amazing floor seats in NJ (and invite me....) then sell your other tickets. When are you going to have an opportunity to get hooked up like that? I just turned 40 also but I am ignoring it AND my husband, but that's just me lol. Nah, he doesn't care all that much.

Tara:
A lot of the decision is going to be based on your or your sister contact getting the tickets for the PruCenter. Based on that, the decision needs to be yours on whether you attend or not. Hopefully your husband would soften up about you going since this is so close to your birthday.

On the other hand, you are coming to see David + in CT in September. Remember after the Idol Tour - and hopefully after David has a little break to catch his breath, he will start the media tour associated with the upcoming CD (I am sure that he will physically come to Manahattan - I would think) and also when his tour starts he will come to (who knows) probably the Izod Center, PruCenter or the Garden. You can certainly plan on coming down to Manhattan during any of those opptys.

This way this time around, you keep the peace with the hubby. But again, it is up to you on what you want to do.

Sorry, I am not much help.
...Annette

I'd go for the show with the best seats and sell the tickets to the CT show. And If I hadn't just gotten my tickets yesterday, I'd say sell them to me! LOL

I think a lot of us are in the same frame of mind. If it wasn't a 5 hour trip to get to one of the concert's I'd probably want to go to the 3 in NH, MA and CT but I also have to think of the bills to pay ect. So I'm curbing my Cookie enthusiasm and saving it for the solo tour. But I'm still going to the CT show!

I would go if I had that chance. If it were me I'd tell my husbad to give it a rest it's not like I'd actually have a chance with DC. Well actually if it were me and my husband was annoying me I'd be like "I'm never gonna get DC I'm stuck with you so you can just drop the attitude!"
lol maybe this is why I'm single!!!

Do you think I should risk upsetting my DH over DC? Is it worth it???
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Nothing is more important then your marriage. Do you love your hubby? Your husband feels left out, alone and very jealous. If you go to this second concert you are telling him that DC is more important then he is to you. Imagine how you would feel if he put another women in front of you.
You may love and support DC but he is fun and fantasy. Your Hubby is real life. How much fun will DC be if you ruin your life over him? David is a sensitive man . He would tell you to stick by your Hubby. I am not suggesting you scarifice the concert .I am saying you should choose your husband



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